Lucky are those who experience unrequited love early in life…..

Posted: March 27, 2014 in Love and Relationships

Oh yes! I know what I am talking about. Don’t think I am writing this one in an inebriated condition. While writing the closing lines of my last blog ‘unrequited love can only make you stronger and a better person’, I thought of digging deep into this topic and let a new streak come out. Now, you would be thinking that how can unrequited love be of any good? How can the uncanny feeling of rejection and loneliness bring any positivity to your life? Actually, as per my observation and experience, it does only good to you.

When you get into one sided love with someone, your heart beats faster than it normally does. During those koochie-kooh days, every cell in your body is more alert so that you appear eye-catching and desirable for the other person. The sappy moments will keep you awake at night, and encourage doing certain things that are more than your competence. No wonder you take that extra 15 minutes to get ready, take care of what you eat, and turn fashion-conscious overnight. You crave for the other person so much that you try to be an improved version of yourself with whom everyone would love to interact. Your first thought in the morning and last wish before sleeping is only that special person. You find bizarre excuses to talk to them, and figure out ways to ‘accidentally’ cross paths with them. And of course the never ending ‘let’s impress’ sessions persist till every person in your vicinity comes to know about it. In a way, you do everything under the sun to get the attention of that one person.


You tend to see both negative and positive points of your partner when you are in a relationship. And that often breeds resentment, arguments and fights. However, in a situation of one-sided love, you try to see that person in the best light possible, and thus you gradually learn to see only the best sides of people. You just want to make sure that every path they walk on is rosy. Practically, there is no likelihood of power games or ego clashes in this case. So, in a way, you remain peaceful and satisfied! Even though no one prays for unreciprocated love, I believe, it does turn us into a strong, controlled and well-behaved human being.


If you see, majority of the world’s greatest filmmakers, moguls, poets, writers, and actors are people who once failed badly in love. It is those agonizing rejections that make them so creatively inclined to their craft. Rejection stimulates a burning fire inside that makes you change, improve and think. This is what makes unrequited love so extraordinary. Nothing in this world can stir you so much from inside and compel you to have an insightful analysis of life. In short, unreciprocated love prepares you for struggles of life. You try to make peace with the fact that life is not going to be easy and every botched situation has to be handled in similar way. At a young age, you understand that no one gets everything they wish and yearn for. Also, failures and rejections are part of life just like success and happiness. Over a period of time, the longing for your love makes you emotionally stronger and bolder. Consequently, you will never be afraid to face any criticism as the worst is already behind you.


That is why I strongly believe that lucky are those people who experience unrequited love early in their life. Rejection in love is said to be the biggest teacher in the world. After the initial rage and annoyance, you feel insanely passionate, productive and happy. You learn to exercise self-censorship and move towards your goal of emerging successful in every other sphere of your life. You feel this is the best thing that could have happened to you and now you are strong enough to battle anything and everything. As for my association with unrequited love, ummmm……I will save that thought for some other day. 😉 😀


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  1. Sonali says:

    Beautifully written! I agree with you, unrequited love is a bitter pill, no one willingly takes it but once taken, it does make one stronger and a better person. But some don’t survive unrequited love and may turn the other way, into darkness, self-pity, hatred, even suicide. Unrequited love may not be everyone’s cup of tea. What say?

    • @Sonali: Hey dear. First of all, thanks for reading it. And yes I absolutely agree that there are some people who may not be able to take it a healthy way initially, but if they get a support system of family and friends during that time, nothing would seem impossible. All they need is a good circle of friends and a vision to stay focused towards better things in life. 🙂

  2. Mancy says:

    Beautiful.. I was smiling throughout while reading this. 🙂 I’m still smiling.

  3. Akshit Choudhary says:

    Pehle main bohot hi lazy aur unproductive hua karta tha……..fir maine Telebrands ka one sided love capsules use kiye…….fayda pehli hi goli se shuru ho gaya….. Aur aaj main bohot hi successful hun life mein!!! 😀

  4. konfusedkub says:

    I think this is the first post I have read from your blog .. and it’s amazing ! Loved the read, got the message and felt lighter . Way to go girl !!

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