Archive for May, 2014


And…yes the lid of controversy is open again, and this time within just one day of Modi government coming into power. Yesterday Jitendra Singh, minister of state in the PM’s Office, gave a contentious statement that the government is open to have a discussion on Article 370 and convince the unconvinced. He was evidently hinting towards its abolition. This statement did not go well with the chief minister of Jammu & Kashmir Omar Abdullah. He took to twitter to vent out his frustration as:

So the new MOS PMO says process/discussions to revoke Art 370 have started. Wow, that was a quick beginning. Not sure who is talking. Mark my words & save this tweet – long after Modi Govt is a distant memory either J&K won’t be part of India or Art 370 will still exist.

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Clearly, Omar was put off with the mere thought of abolition of Article 370. Many of us won’t even be knowing that what exactly this Article 370 is and how it has been affecting the lives of Kashmiris for more than 60 years now. Article 370 is basically a temporary provision that gives an autonomous status to Jammu and Kashmir, meaning the Indian Parliament will have to seek the approval of State Government before applying any law in the state apart from Defence, Foreign Affairs, and Communications. Consequently, the residents of Jammu and Kashmir fall under different set of laws as compared to other Indian states. Now, the question arises regarding its foundation. Without going into too much intricate detail let’s understand just the starting point. During our country’s independence, there were lot of speculations whether Kashmir was ready for integration or not, and to ensure peace, this article was imposed. It is rather strange that it’s been over 6 decades and this “temporary” provision is enjoying its long stay and evoking so many debates and controversies even today.

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It is only because of this provision that Indian citizens of different states are not allowed to acquire land or property in Jammu & Kashmir. If a normal Indian citizen has one citizenship, the citizens of J&K have two citizenships. Also, although Article 370 was gender neutral, it prohibits women of this state from the basic property rights. It also denies the president of India from enforcing any emergency in J&K.

While some experts argue that there is no reason that a state in India has a special status because it defeats the whole purpose of calling J&K a fundamental part of India. People like Omar Abdullah claim that the article 370 is instrumental in protecting the rights of Kashmiris. Many people also assert that the beauty of Kashmir will only prevail in less population and it is right if people from other states are not allowed to own property here.

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It is to be seen what becomes of this controversial topic in the coming weeks. However, the irony is that we claim that we live in a democracy and, as far as we all have studied in our text books, every community has equal rights and equal duties.

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I am not her worshiper. I am not even fond of her professional skills. No news about her has the potential to interest me. But this time, it seems, former beauty queen and actress Aishwarya Rai Bachchan was determined to shun her critics and drive the paparazzi crazy with her breathtaking Cannes Film Festival appearance. Her Roberto Cavalli off-shoulder dress was something to talk about, and as even her husband Abhishek Bachchan puts, it forced everyone to keep “eyes wide open”.

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In the past few years, there have been endless speculations about her dreary Cannes appearances and her increasing weight post pregnancy. In fact, some of the her overweight looks were so appalling that people who swore by this Devdas beauty wanted to shoot themselves between the eyes. I won’t deny. I was also one of those people who ranted that her time is over and she is good only for home utensil advertisements.

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But, yesterday when I saw this goddess on the red carpet with confidence oozing from her eyes and smile, I was sure of one thing that marriage or motherhood can never eclipse the glory of the woman residing within you. The experience of getting back to shape and avoiding media glare for a significant time must have been exhausting at one level, but exceedingly stimulating at another. She has proved to be a hands-on wife and mother till now and no one can deny that. And when the moment came to showcase her gorgeous diva side, she did that too but at her own pace without getting into any number race.

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Often we get exhausted exploring just one facet of our relationships. Nevertheless, events like this and efforts from celebrities like her are a reminder that sometimes you have to hit the rock bottom to recognize your vision and get the fortitude to silence your critics with élan. Whenever someone tries to propel in the direction of liberation, it definitely gets a mention on my blog. The catch is, no matter how many responsibilities and relationships you are handling, you need to define your awesomeness every once in a while just like Aishwarya stepped in and punched the geared-up pessimistic critics right in the face. Bravo!!!!!!!!!!!!

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As I sit down to write this, I am receiving some constant messages from a long lost college mate with whom I have no contact for a year now. The messages wouldn’t have made way into my cell phone had I not installed a new app this morning. Unfortunately, I was completely ignorant of her presence on the app or else I would have blocked her there too like some other networking apps/websites. Yes, you can go ahead and label me as a caddish individual, but I am pretty sure of few things: Priority, Reciprocation and Permanence. And under no circumstances, I compromise with these three policies of my life.

Friendship, just like every relationship, weighs heavy on our heart and makes us dependent on it increasingly. We seek the support of our close people at the face of every adversity. Whether they are able to do anything tangible or not, but the kind of emotional aid they bring on the table speaks volume of the kind of goodwill we are surrounded with. Unlike now, I was always the quintessential friend who would go to any extent to get the monkey of acrimony off the shoulder of my close buddies. From late night telephonic conversations to constant chatting to sending them gifts, I have done almost everything conceivable to get the smile back on their face. Needless to say, I was on major occasions teased as “the counselor” who would listen to your problems and suggest you solutions; even if there was no solution at least I would listen to you sacrificing my sleep and important work.

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So, there was this college friend of mine who would come to me whenever there was something significant to talk about, preferably whenever her love life was on rocks. I patiently lend my ear to her on each and every occasion as college life is all about unconditional love in friendship. This continued till the final semesters, and finally we moved to different cities for pursuing our career. Nevertheless, it didn’t stop me from calling her on a regular interval and getting an update of her whereabouts. Meanwhile, her love interests too kept on changing after few months, and so does the problems related to them. But, I never failed to mollycoddle her at any instance.

Everything was going well, until an atypical feeling started arising within me. I started observing that there were frequent and long calls from her side only when her relationship underwent some serious repercussions. She used to shout, cry, sob, rant and sulk for hours. Whereas I would listen, console, advice, and then again listen. Quite in contrast, when she used to bury the hatchet with her love interest the next day, she ignored me as I never existed in her life. On most occasions, she did not even bother to reply to my messages. This cycle again continued till the time her boyfriend matched up to her expectations, but alas, a tussle would again make her call me.

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I realized that over the years, I got trapped into this role of emotional anchor and somehow this part got overlapped with the emotions of friendship. Now, I am no more a friend, but just an emotional support who would come to her rescue whenever she would be in a catch-22 situation. But, still there was no escape to it because I was too naive to break someone’s heart in the time of need. The counselor in me faced a major turning point last year when my mother was unwell for some weeks. I was very disturbed those days. Usually I am a close person when it comes to showing your emotions. Why not confide in my friends during this tough time just like they do to me? I thought to myself. I called this particular friend, but there was no response from her. I dropped her message saying that my mother was not well, and I am little disturbed and may be talking to her would make me feel better. It was the feeling of your heart getting lacerated unlimited times when she replied just with an “okay”. I did not get a call from her for another 20 days.

My mental fulcrum got totally crashed and I saw a new practicality of life. All these years of friendship, support and reciprocation came crashing to the ground. Now, I was confirmed that I was not just an emotional anchor, but a “backup” emotional anchor. There is huge difference between these two terms. The former is what you get unconditionally from your parents and close people, and the later is when people take you just an option or alternative to their priority to in life. In this case, her love interest was the priority in her life and I was a backup option for listening to her worries whenever she needed someone. It was not about friendship anymore.

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With all the ups and downs in my kitty, I made up my mind that come what may, I will never be an alternative for people like her. I will be always there for people who have filled my life with warmth, but today I am clear sighted to pigeon-hole individuals who have the agenda of using me just in the time of hardships. And by bringing this change into my lifestyle, I got rid of some major complications of my life and got closer to people who actually matter. The list of my friends is relatively smaller today, but at least it comprises of those people who inspire me to be a better person every day instead of making me feel like a recycle bin of psychotherapy emotions. If you are getting drowned in the cacophony of endless one-sided emotional support, think again! May be its time to walk out of it and embrace redemption.

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The nine phase voting festival of Indian democracy finally got over with a record voter turnout of 66%. I can proudly say that I was one of those responsible citizens who did not think of the Election Day as yet another official holiday. As for now, the major exit polls result clearly reflect that Narendra Modi is all set to take over the prestigious throne of India’s Prime Minister.

We have to wait till 16th May 2014 to know the actual results, but it will be interesting to see whether Modi works on his promise of “more governance, less government” and brings the economy back. And, with such a high voter turnout this time, it is pretty obvious that we want nothing less than perfect from Modi ji.

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This is an ironic thought to start the day with. But, this is the fact of life. We seldom see anyone leading their life as wished by them. Everyone is busy in pleasing either a bunch of people or a special person who makes their world go round. But, at the end of the day, there are always unmet expectations from either side. Of course I understand that a society cannot function by being indifferent to everything. But, I have understood one basic funda of life in all these years- you need to love yourself first before loving anyone.

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Writing-in strangely many ways- is similar to our lives. I write for my passion not because I want to show anything to anyone; also, I will never write something to please anyone because I know haters are always going to hate. There is no hidden agenda for writing. After the posting of an article, the number of likes and comments I get from some loyal friends and followers is more than enough for me. It rarely bothers me about anything else. Life follows a similar circle.

We have just one life to lead it the way we want, and it upsets me to death when I see people sacrificing their basic daily happiness for the sake of other’s comfort. Giving priority to someone is good, but don’t you think if you are not able to love your needs/expectations first then how will you start loving someone else. The endless introspection and frustration subtly creeps into you, and you start taking that out in every other aspect of life. A person who is content with himself will have the strength of an eagle to fly to all unexplored destination. On the other hand, a person has made everyone happy, but is still struggling with lumber of unhappiness within will sink like a rock gradually.

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Your emotional reservoir certainly has much more capability than this. You were not born to get weighed down by expectations. Instead get up and remind yourself every second that you are always the priority of your soul followed by your loved ones. Speaking up for your happiness will never mean hurting someone unless you are murdering or cheating someone. Life will always throw you in deep sea, but it is always up to you whether you want to swim or drown. Make peace with what you want in life and dismantle norms that don’t serve you in any way!

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We talk of women liberation and gay rights, but it all comes down to one simple fact that only people who are self-centeredly focused towards their happiness are able to lead a truthful life, which in turn will gradually make their companions satisfied as well. If I am not confident about my personality then naturally no one will put that extra effort to find attractive qualities in me. I have no qualms in saying that I love myself more than anyone else in the world, and perhaps this is the reason so far I have been able to keep everyone around me happy. The work of both art and life is to draw out a response- whether good or bad. And only a happy soul can fight the pain and bitter remorse in order to move forward. Cheers to Life and Art! 😀

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